April 11, 2013 – Rachel's Musings

I’m sorry this to me is just shocking.

“We’ve always had a private notion of children. Your kid is yours and totally your responsibility and haven’t had a very collective notion of these are our children”.

Call me crazy! I thought my children were my children and my responsibility.

She goes on “We have to break through our kind of private idea that kids belong to their parents or kids belong to their families.”

Hmmmm…where have I heard that kind of talk before? Oh yeah sounds slightly like Karl Marx who said “The education of all children, from the moment that they can get along without a mother’s care, shall be in state institutions at state expense” . People like Ms. Harris-Perry actually believe what Marx is saying, that the society can teach children better than the outdated notion of family.

After all, family can teach such antiquated ideas as traditional marriage, sexual chastity and heaven forbid they become greedy capitalists! This explains why early collectivist thinker, Jean Jacques Rousseau left his 5 children on the steps of an orphanage, not because of need but because a state education was better for the whole of mankind. Ridiculous.

I’m sorry but nobody is more qualified to teach my children how to be a man or a woman than me. And I will not be handing over that role to any institution or ‘community’ that may or may not agree with my definition of what is good, and right. Over my dead body! This is why I will be homeschooling my children, if I ever have any. I am not going to have my children indoctrinated by the likes of Harris-Perry. It is an outrage.

The family is the most important institution on the earth and the disintegration of societies has always followed a disintegration of the family.

“The Family: A Proclamation to the World” remains “a clarion call to protect and strengthen families,” according to Elder M. Russell Ballard of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, who says it is also “a stern warning in a world where declining values and misplaced priorities threaten to destroy society by undermining its basic unit.”

The Proclamation on the Family closes with these warnings to the likes of Harris-Perry:

“We warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets.

We call upon responsible citizens and officers of government everywhere to promote those measures designed to maintain and strengthen the family as the fundamental unit of society.”

This warning was given in 1995 and clearly the Prophet and Apostles saw the attack on the family that was going to come in the next 2 decades. Would they have said that if there was nothing threatening the family? No. It is not just vibrato but a warning that calamities will befall a society as it strays away and disintegrates the family. It’s been happening for years. Now people are getting comfortable saying it, even promoting it as a noble endeavor to move beyond the family. Marriage is already been diluted, now let’s dilute the notion of family.

My children are my children. My family is my family. The collective can help when I feel it is of help but that is it. I decide what is best for my children and you better work with me on that or we will have issues. At the very least it will be me removing all the crud shoved down their throats by the supposed enlightened collective. Unbelievable.

“HANDS OFF MY KIDS! My kids futures are not for you to raid in the name of social justice and the need for more ‘failed investments” Say it loud and clear Michelle. The family is the most important social unit and I am going to keep that ‘ private notion’ to my grave despite what Harris-Perry might say.

If Harris-Perry is so comfortable with the collective teaching her children than why doesn’t she send her kids over to my house and I will teach them about traditional marriage and the Proclamation on the Family? For some reason, I think she’d resist that. She only wants collective when it agrees with her and fits into her worldview. I am consistent. The family is an eternal unit and nothing is more important to the happiness and stabilization of our nation than that. My children are my responsibility.

I repeat:

“We have to break through our kind of private idea that kids belong to their parents or kids belong to their families.”

Unbelievable to me.

ps. I love the little shout-out to the Mormon church by the liberal commentator. We do it right…

Ok that really isn’t true. I am all about love songs, but sometimes I hate them. Sometimes I want to scream at the radio with impatience and frustration.

My single friends- don’t you sometimes feel like there is this big part of life you are missing out on? Like there is an inside joke that everyone elsegets but you? I know I do. So much of what you see in movies, music, theater and novels centers around romantic affection, whether it is lust, infatuation, break ups or constancy. Now before you start reassuring me that marriage isn’t so great and that I should be grateful to be single, ask yourself this would you want to be in my shoes, for real?

I am not wanting to seem ungrateful but sometimes I worry that I will miss out on this big part of being human. If you were to believe the media a persons sexuality is the most important part of who they are (hogwash if you ask me) so where does that leave me? I’m happy with my life but at times it feels like I’m missing out. (I know I’m being repetitive but I can’t think of any other way to say it).

I am not writing this to engender a pity party. I’m just being honest and admitting that sometimes I feel sad that I don’t get to experience romantic love, or that I haven’t too this point. I guess I get tired of pretending like it doesn’t affect me or that I’m not allowed to feel sad about it because “other people have it way worse”. If that were a valid reason for not feeling emotion, nobody would feel sad about anything ever, and that’s not human.

So I’ll just say it- most of the time I am fine being single, but sometimes I feel sad. There you go.

Most of all I wish there was something I could do. Like some big secret I could learn that everyone else has figured out but I haven’t been clued into. I meet people who seem to be so difficult and yet their lives have been full of romantic affection. It makes me wonder what they are doing and I am not doing? I know there is no answer to this question and it is all in God’s hands, but still I hope I’m not doing anything to make it not happen. I worry about that sometimes

When it comes down to it I wish I had control, but I don’t. I wish I could have all the blessings of a temple marriage but it’s not looking good right now (haven’t been on a date in months). Again, don’t feel sorry for me. I’m just trying to be honest about how I feel at times.

It seems natural to me that I would have moments of longing for a partner. Doesn’t everyone want love and companionship? I’m no different.

Basically, I would like to fall in love and get married. I’d like to have companionship. I’d like to get married in the temple. I’d like to see how I’d do in a relationship because I think I’d be pretty great.

Am I wallowing in it? I don’t think so, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t have my moments of envy, regret and sadness at my single life. Not as much as some girls, but I am human, and I feel all emotions in my own way. Sometimes it seems like it is not socially acceptable to feel sad, frustrated, angry, remorseful and that those feelings are explained away or not taken seriously. I get that dwelling on them doesn’t help things but to pretend like they don’t exist isn’t helpful.

So, yes, sometimes life is hard. Sometimes being single sucks. Sometimes I long for a kiss goodnight or a squeeze of my hand from a person who really loves me. Sometimes I feel sad, angry, upset and melancholy. I know God is looking out for me and all will be well but I do feel the full scope of human emotions and deal with them in the best way I can.

There I said it.

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Family is Dying

I Hate Love Songs