I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.
I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.
Success is blocked by concentrating on it and planning for it… Success is shy – it won’t come out while you’re watching.
Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.
Ok. So clearly this post is on success. Its something that’s been on my mind after a discussion with a friend of mine. She was an inspiration to me to lose weight and get in shape. She’s lost significant weight from her height and runs in 5k’s, has a trainer and is in my mind a complete success. In fact, she’s enough of a success to be an inspiration, years ago. The interesting thing is when I was speaking with her she seemed to believe her journey was just starting, that she still had so much to lose, so much to achieve fitness-wise. I’m not saying she felt like a failure but not as the finisher I saw.
It made me wonder if some people look at me that way, like I am a diet success when honestly I see failure a lot of the time? Or at least mediocre success in my self-defeating moments. Its just I thought I would be so much further along after 3+ years than I am. I thought it would be so much easier (and honestly that’s a good thing or I would never have made the attempt.
Of course, that is only in my weak moments that we all have and then I quickly remind myself of how far I’ve come. I certainly couldn’t have planned for chronic pain, eye surgery, thyroid problems, panic attacks, falling down a flight of stairs ect….
Still, it just made me wonder if people look at me and see something that I don’t see in myself. See a success that I don’t get. Do you ever wish you could be a fly on the wall and see the world as others see you? Perhaps it would be terrifying but maybe not!
I guess that’s the nice thing about a blog. It’s kind of a chance to be a fly on the wall and put yourself out there for the world. I know all I can do is keep trying, doing my best, removing distorted thoughts as much as possible and setting new goals. That’s it!
Honestly the only thing that I really feel truly successful about are my friendships, my blog and my swims. Everything else could use improvement and I’m Ok with that. Keep trying, keep moving forward.
Thoughts? What means success to you, and who do you look at as successful?
3 thoughts on “Success”
Success is all relative I think, just like so many other things in life. It all depends on how you define it and what perspective you’re coming from. Have you ever read Outliers: The Story of Success, by Malcolm Gladwell? It’s a fascinating book and a great read, but one thought I had after reading it was that never in the book does he actually define what “success” is. It is obvious what kind of success he is talking about, but there are plenty of people in this world who wouldn’t have qualified as “successful” according to his terms, but are very successful in other ways.
I’ve totally seen that in my family. One of my grandpa’s has done very well in his career and yet he struggles to be happy. My other grandpa was a simple guidance counselor yet was a joy to be around. To me they are both successful but in different ways . However, in the end does it matter if we are successful if it doesn’t bring us happiness?
I will have to check out that book. You are totally right that so much of what we see depends on our perspective. In fact,its hard to think of an area of life that is not completely colored by our unique looking glass. For instance, a family may seem like a great success in one person’s eyes but a failure in another. Just depends. Thank goodness God is the judge and has the ultimate perspective.
However, in the end does it matter if we are successful if it doesn’t bring us happiness?
Exactly! I think you’re right on with that.